How’s Life? Is all fine with you? I’m glad if you’re alright. Everyone deserves good days. Conversely, have you been depressed lately? Longing for that elusive care from a loved one, or a friend? As if what you’re receiving from him or her, is incomplete in words and action? That there is still unfilled vacuum in your relationship inspite of what you have given to him? A case of incomplete love in return?
Take the case of a mother to her child. Despite everything she has done for her, why is it that some mothers feel neglected by her child in mother’s old age? Conversely, why does a daughter feel that her mother did not fully support her?
A father to a son to whom he has given full support in childhood until college graduation. Why is it that some sons still feel that support is nothing because his father was not close to him emotionally. For that father, why does he feel his son is distant to him even if they have lived together in the same house for many years?
A friend to a friend of decades. Why does the first friend feel that the second friend is dependent on him and to a certain extent using him? And why does the second friend feel that in all these decades the first friend was just manipulating him to be dependent on him?
We are now in the highest level of relationship －husband and wife, and lovers － not husband and wife.
Why is it that some wives feel that their husbands are not faithful to them? Why do wives feel loved less by their husbands especially at aging years?
Why does a girlfriend or partner feel wanting for time and attention of her lover? Why does she feel that she has to be loved more and that she finds her lover wanting or diminishing in his attention and action to her?
All in all, these people feel incomplete love being given to them by the other side. As much as they want to feel loved and supported by their partners, they still feel half-full, and fools for love. They don’t get the contentment and bliss of being loved. They feel continuously half-empty, or fully empty of that love in return. Consequently, they feel sad or depressed under the love partnership. And yet, oftentimes they don’t get out of said love situation, or they simply cannot get out of it. What is to do?
For parents and children, to reform is still possible although difficult. Their many years together have already established the pattern of their relationship, including the walls. To demolish the walls need a firm resolve.
For friends of long standing, a more relaxed atmosphere to clear the air may come easy. However, for best friends if the issues are grave, they become bitter enemies, hopefully not.
For husband and wife, there are legalities that they have to face if they split. However, experience shows that patience and their children patch them, generally.
For lovers, this is the greatest hurdle when they quarrel － gone with the wind, or happily ever after, if they settle.
Through all these love situation, we almost forgot an equation － God’s complete love for all of us. Only God loves us unconditionally and until the end of time. If we seek complete love from mortals like us, we are bound to fail. For only God can give us the perfect love － honest, faithful, unwavering, loyal, embracing, and everlasting.
But this does not mean that we will not be true anymore to our partners. We should still strive to give that love due them, and mutually at that. Love in return…
